Sturgis …….I hadn't even known it was happening. Wasn't on my radar as I had only got home the day before. But as I was hauling ass towards Denver and then after, the great unknown. I stopped for gas outside Colorado Springs and there were a shit ton of bikers pulled in. I got to talking to 1 group and the asked me if I was heading to Sturgis. I was dumbstruck, DAMN THE LUCK. A bucket list item just fell in my lap, my wife left me (not technically but we’ll discuss that in another space)so I was single..ish and I had $40,000 in the bank. Oh.. and I was on leave…life is good.
I'll chime in on this one. When I was gone on my last tour in Iraq, I was 42, an old man by army standards. Came home, found out my wife if 18 years had gone AWOL with a former (former due to the obvious) friend of mine. They had flown the coop. This was probably a wise decision as pissing off a, returning home from the war, special ops soldier, is never a good primary plan. I was 42 years old and without any plan to be alone. It was a confusing time, I was hurt, I felt abandoned by my wife and my country, I had had a terrible tour losing 2 of my closest friends only to come home to this shit. So….there was in only one thing to do. I got on my Harley, turned it's nose North towards Denver, and throttled hard to…….
I rolled into Sturgis like a conquering hero, only thing is that there's about 100,000 people in a 3 block area, so nobody noticed. All I saw was hot chicks and boobs and bikes and bikers forever. Heaven awaits. So I'm gonna have to shorten the story a bit, so let's say I met a beautiful young lady at the Buffalo Chip that night. She looked like a Barbie doll in daisy dukes. After i’d been talking to her awhile she said ”can I ask you somthing?” I said “ask away.” She said “ we're at Sturgis, at the Buffalo Chip drinking beer. You look at me like you think I'm beautiful. At Ieast I hope. You have my full attention and I like you alot, so why do you look so sad?” The question kind of hung in the air like the smell of death. I hadn't told her that 5 days ago I had been in Iraq. I hadn't told her that my 2 pals had gotten killed or even that my wife had left me while I was gone for somebody else. So I told her. The whole story. Somebody I had only known for about an hour, my only confidante' on earth. After I said all I had to say I wrapped it up with “and to make matters worse, I've been gone for 18 months and I was really hoping my wife was gonna be there. I'm a desert horny M*fer.” So…in the army there's “horny,” the usual strain of horny, then there “desert horny” the super strain. If you've been gone to the desert for the last 18 months with a bunch of dudes that talk about killing people and sex constantly, when you get back home you are indeed “desert horny”. Beware of this condition because bad choices await the unsuspecting soldier. She looked at me intently for a minute. She said “So, we could stay here and watch the concert , OR “ she lowered her voice conspiratorially and put her lips to my ear, “ we could go to wherever you're staying and I can F*** your brains out”. She leaned back, gave me a smashing smile and said “for my country….like a duty or somthing since your wifes a mega bitch .” Well, that hung in the air for the blink of an eye before I literally snatched her up cave man style and ran out the Buffalo Chip carrying her over my shoulder(I'm glad she was laughing because it might have looked like I was stealing her) flung her on my bike and rode like my ass was on fire all the way to the campground where we couldn't find my tent , finally did, and into the palace we went, to Valhalla and beyond.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
So, to answer your question…if a girlfriend is meant for you, she will find you or you her. God has a funny way of sending you what you need…when you need it most.
